Setting the Scene
It was a beautiful morning, and I had the opportunity to meet new people—fellow entrepreneurs who share similar values. As we talked about our businesses and future plans, something familiar happened: one person naturally started offering advice while another received it. This is common among business owners, but it often presents a challenge.
The Moment of Decision
As we got to know each other, we shared what we do. I explained that I’m a Productivity Coach for ADHD, and she mentioned that her business had shifted to a membership model, similar to mine. As our conversation deepened, I encouraged her to recognize the value of her expertise and charge accordingly for her live classes.
Then, she asked for my website and said, “Maybe I can call sometime, and we can talk shop.” This was the moment I had to make a choice: to honor my boundaries or blur the lines.
I gently shook my head and said, “That’s something I can’t do.” She explained that she often struggles with this dynamic and wanted to learn from me. I empathized and told her, “I completely understand, and that’s why I have a boundary in place. To honor my business and how I make an income, I can’t offer ongoing business advice for free—it’s part of my business model.”
I clarified that while occasional short conversations are fine, when someone starts calling or messaging multiple times for advice, it’s time to discuss working together as client and coach. She respected my stance and appreciated my transparency. This conversation wasn’t just about a boundary—it was about protecting my time, energy, and mental space while maintaining integrity in my relationships and business.
Why Boundaries Matter
Boundaries are essential for maintaining a healthy work-life balance. If you allow friends or peers to access your expertise at all hours without compensation, burnout becomes inevitable. More than that, resentment can creep in. I’ve been there, and trust me, you don’t want to find yourself rolling your eyes every time that person calls—whether it’s business-related or not.
This challenge is even more pronounced with ADHD. At first, helping someone gives us a dopamine boost. But when the novelty wears off, frustration sets in. Having clear business boundaries isn’t just about avoiding burnout; it’s about protecting your creativity, focus, and overall well-being.
When you set boundaries, you:
- Give your brain time to rest. Mental space is crucial for creativity, especially as an entrepreneur.
- Prioritize what truly matters. Instead of being pulled into unnecessary conversations, you stay focused on high-impact tasks.
- Foster innovation. When your time isn’t consumed by unplanned commitments, you have more capacity for strategic thinking and new ideas.
- Avoid overwhelm and mental clutter. Clear boundaries lead to better decisions, increased productivity, and reduced stress.
The Power of Speaking Up
Advocating for yourself and your business is a form of empowerment. When you communicate your boundaries, you:
- Set the tone for how others treat you.
- Protect your time and energy.
- Foster mutual respect in business relationships.
- Ensure that your work aligns with your goals and values.
Saying no can feel uncomfortable at first, especially if you’re a people-pleaser. But over time, it becomes a powerful tool for creating a more intentional and fulfilling life. Saying no isn’t about rejecting people—it’s about making space for the things that truly matter.
Conclusion: Boundaries Are Self-Care
Boundaries are not barriers; they are a form of self-care. They allow you to:
- Avoid burnout
- Stay focused on your priorities
- Build a business that aligns with your values
- Show up as your best self—both personally and professionally
As business owners, the lines between personal and professional life can easily blur. But if you find yourself stretched too thin, that’s often a sign that stronger boundaries are needed. Reflect on where you can say no more often and watch how it positively impacts your productivity, creativity, and peace of mind.
If you need support in creating and maintaining boundaries in your business, Click here to schedule your Mindfully Productive: From Uncertainty to Clarity session. I’d love to help you create a business model that works for you—not against you.
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